Ep #54 – Self-Esteem
Self-esteem impacts what you do and don’t do.
What You’ll Learn on this Episode:
- How low self-esteem keeps you from doing what you want.
- What happens in relationships when self-esteem is low.
- How self-esteem improves your view of effort.
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- Work with Christie one-on-one.
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Ep #54 Self-Esteem
As I take a moment to sit and talk with you now, I’m reflecting on last week.
I had a completely different podcast recorded, then listened back and it was missing key pieces that I wanted to include for the community of lovelies.
I thought about doing a repost to just slip one in (which I may do at some point in the future but not to slip in but because it’s a really good episode), set up the repost and then decided, you know what? Let’s start from scratch and make this thing amazing.
That's the whole purpose of this podcast. To give you tools you can use to build self-esteem, support your mindset, and understand your feelings.
So I thought about whether or not I should even mention all of this or just jump right into the episode. But again, this is why I’m here. To tell you that the journey in goals isn’t always seamless. There are unexpected events, things don’t go as planned, you put worth into and then do it again.
This is what I want you to know from all of it. The effort is always worth it. That’s how I choose to see it. We are either getting the exact results we wanted or we’re learning. BOTH are key. So the more you own and work towards what you want even when you have to do it a second, third, time, that’s WHAT in itself makes it worth it and produces results to celebrate.
So here we are.
Today’s topic is Self-Esteem. I am so passionate about this topic. Most of the things we do or don’t do come to our view of ourselves. Self-esteem encompasses all the pieces of that.
Over the next few weeks, I’m going to share with you the tools and overall structure we use in the 6-month program and in The Self-Esteem School workshops that build self-esteem.
So to kick it off, today’s topic is on Self-esteem itself. Self-esteem includes: they way you think, the way you feel, and who you think you are….lol like how you describe yourself.
When clients and I start working together they share thoughts and feelings that they never shared with anyone else. It’s the biggest honor and very humbling in a beautiful way. This is where something beautiful happens, they are able to see qualities and strengths they admire in themselves. That makes procrastination go away. It makes beating yourself up and overthinking reduce…. A lot.
So how is your life impacted when you have low self-esteem?
You question yourself, a lot, and not in the fun, creative way.
You worry if your decisions are right. Then wait to make them. You’ll say things like, ‘I need more time to think about this, or I don’t have time, or it’s too confusing.’
You want to be a better leader, start your business, or have relationships where you can be yourself, but when it gets hard, you make it mean something about your ability or lack of ability as a person, as if it’s just you or harder for you, or you need more info.
You’re defensive or complain about people. You snap at people or talk about them, then feel terrible later. You don’t want to do that anymore, and yet sometimes it almost feels refreshing or like an outlet. You want confirmation, validation, or attention, and are frustrated or dejected when people don’t give that to you in a way you wanted, whether it’s texts, thanks yous, agreeing with you,,, etc.
Here are a couple key things to point out here. Questioning yourself, wanting attention, and hesitating to make a decision are all…..can you guess, human.
The difference is when you have healthy self-esteem, they don’t become a problem. Those things don’t get in the way of your relationships, work, goals, or view of yourself. You can see them for what they are, human traits, and decide what to do from a powerful, clear place. So instead of spending a lot of time spinning or struggling, you’re clear. You make decisions and do them. You stop beating yourself up, you understand the feelings of others and support yours too, there is no need to people please because you can have honest conversations with love and listen more deeply.
Self-esteem is the solution to overthinking, overwhelm, and procrastination.
What a relief, right?! So this is my invitation to you. If you want to feel better about yourself and build self-esteem, let’s work together.
That confidence you’re looking for, self-esteem. Feeling more calm and clear, self-esteem.
It is so simple. That’s what’s amazing about this work. We make things complicated, but this work to make decisions and reach goals is simple. We take the complicated out in coaching.
Can’t wait to get started with you. Go to mschristiewilliams.com to schedule your Clarity Call, andI’ll see you in session, lovely.
Have a great week.